At some point in your new, exciting, romance filled relationship, your boyfriend will suggest meeting his parents. First things first, don’t panic. It’s been said a thousand times before but, even though it’s definitely a stage beyond going on casual dates with someone, this really doesn’t have to be a stressful experience, though it can seem a bit of an intimidating prospect at first.
So, how to make a decent initial impression? With a little preparation and forward thinking about how you come across, this isn’t difficult.
First up, preparation. You might want to think about how you dress. Day to day stuff is fine, or maybe something a bit classier if you’re going out for dinner. Just avoid anything ‘too sexy’ and you’ll be fine. Or, in other words, as long as it’s not too outrageous wear what you feel comfortable in. Another bit of preparation that’s easy to do is you could also bring a small gift. It can be generic, like flowers or chocolates, as even this is nice, or you could ask your boyfriend if his parents like anything in particular.
Second, how to act. This is straightforward: be yourself. It’s common sense that in this case also happens to be true. There’s no point pretending to be someone you’re not. A) This might freak out or even annoy your boyfriend and B) You don’t want to have to keep up the pretence every time you meet his parents again in the future! You’ve seen the movies, right? Not a good idea.
Second, be polite, friendly and helpful. Another common sense point, but it’s worth emphasising. You’re much more likely to make a lasting impression as a nice person your boyfriend parents approve of if you ask them how they are, remember your pleases and thank yous, and offer to do the dishes after dinner. If disaster strikes and you can’t avoid a bit of difficult conversation or a controversial subject you and his parents really disagree on, just remember to stay respectful and engage honestly in the conversation.
Lastly, perhaps the most basic thing to remember is that the more you work yourself up about it, the more anxious and on edge you’ll seem, meaning you might come across worse! So, as far as you can, try not to worry about it. You like you boyfriend, he’s like he is because of his parents, so they can’t be that bad, right? Right.